So look at your life. Look at the results of your efforts. Are you getting that you want? And by that I mean the emotional result… Happiness… Joy… Fulfillment. Go for that and the rest will follow but get clear about the what and the why.
Letting go of these old limiting and negative beliefs are very helpful but in my experience I needed help to get out of the mud and back on the road so I could drive my car on the road to my Bright Future. It’s what I had always wanted, what many, many people promised me (and then didn’t deliver).
I saw how I was allowing my hurt and wounded child to get behind the wheel when I was being self centered and insecure. I learned how I was willing to get into the passenger seat and giving the steering wheel to my adolescent whenever I craved attention and wanted to control circumstances and people all around me.
But I had to give up the wheel. I had to get into the passenger seat and let the wounded…and begging for help and recognition parts of me take over.
And I didn’t realize how hurt and wounded they were ( my inner child and adolescent) and that I was their only hope… their only way out. The only one who could still hear their cries for help… the only one who could actually heal them.
- So how do you start to heal your inner child?
- close your eyes…and go into stillness.
- Go to them see them in their bedroom or where they would go hide to be by themselves.
- Talk to them… tell them you’re from their future and want to help them.
- Ask them what they need? Ask them what they want?
- hold them and tell them that you love them and will come to visit so they can stop feeling so alone.
This is just the beginning but it helps.
And so it is with you. You can start loving yourself by embracing the child you were ( and still are) and giving them the healing they need. They are really afraid when you had the car over to them…simply put they are not equipped to drive the car, to impact the course of your life. If you heal them in their world they won’t create havoc in your world. That’s how it works. And it works very well.
So who is driving your car? Let it be you.